Husband unfaithful!

ForHisGlory · Post by **ForHisGlory** » Thu Mar 29, 2012 6:15 pm

I had a disturbing dream 2 nights ago.

I dreamt that my husband was in the basement of our house working in a small room - like a workshop. (IRL we don't have this room - it reminded me of the tool crib my husband works in at his job). He left the room to go to work and then I needed to go in and get something. In the dream I have never gone in this room, and when I went in, I found a picture of my husband with another woman. They are hugging each other and look like they are on vacation. I confront my husband later and he doesn't deny that he has a relationship with this lady. I then go to his work and meet the lady and find out that this relationship has been going on for a very long time and that everyone at work has known about them. This I find even more upsetting and I leave thinking I don't know how I can make love with my husband anymore, knowing he has been with this woman. End of dream.
Any thoughts would be appreciated.

Four Years · Post by **Four Years** » Thu Mar 29, 2012 6:29 pm

that woman is probably his job or some other activity that either takes his time away from you or it's just something he does you'd rather he not

Charys · Post by **Charys** » Thu Mar 29, 2012 7:57 pm

I agree with four that this is probably not literally about a woman. The dream mentions working, workshop, tool crib, job, your husband going to work, and you going to his work -so the theme of work keeps being repeated.

I wonder if this dream is about worrying that his job will take him from you -or that he would rather work than come home, or in some other way work is a source of jealousy for you. You discover this in the basement so this might be a foundational issue for you that is not obvious to outsiders.

-for your discernment-

Post by **discerning** » Fri Mar 30, 2012 2:16 am

Just adding to what four years & charys offered. These words stood out to me..

my husband with another woman. They are hugging each other and look like they are on vacation

As a whole, the dream speaks to me of spiritual adultery. Is your husband dealing with some issue/problem in the natural that has overwhelmed him to the extent that he has his focus on his circumstances rather than the Lord? Might be a work issue as it reminds you of his work environment. Perhaps this dream is prayer direction for you as you cover your beloved in prayer.

for your prayerful consideration,

ForHisGlory · Post by **ForHisGlory** » Sat Mar 31, 2012 2:39 pm

Thank you Discerning, Charys and Four Years,

I do believe the woman is his work - he works alot of overtime and is looking to retire, but really loves his job. I do think his job and working so much leaves him little time to do the things the Lord has put in him. But I had a dream once that was similar to this and the Lord spoke to me through it, because my reaction to it was to be willing to live with him and his knew girl friend, even though it would be painful and harmful to me, rather then to leave and start a new life. The Lord showed me that I was in a ministry that was great, but the grace to work in that ministry had left and I was staying out of fear of stepping out into something new that the Lord had for me. I since have left the ministry and started a school of ministry, which has been a dream come true! I am beginning to think this dream is more about me and my reaction - which in this case was more healthy - I was actually considering what would be best for me. Recognizing I had a choice, to stay or to go - perhaps counting the cost!! Something we are to do, but hopefully willing to pay the price completely. Any thoughts???